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Wednesday, January 13, 2021

I've moved back with my parents in my early 30s and feel I'm missing milestones. Does this get easier?

You sound like you live well, writes advice columnist ELEANOR GORDON-SMITH. Don’t be fooled into a view of success based on values that aren’t your own I HAVE RECENTLY MOVED BACK WITH MY PARENTS IN MY EARLY 30S AFTER OVER 10 YEARS OF LIVING INDEPENDENTLY, AND WHILE MY PARENTS LOVE HAVING ME HERE AND WE HAVE A WONDERFUL RELATIONSHIP, I FEEL AS THOUGH I AM FAILING AT THE LINEAR LIFE PATH THAT NEARLY ALL OF MY FRIENDS ARE LIVING. MOST OF MY FRIENDS ARE SETTLING DOWN IN RELATIONSHIPS, BUYING PROPERTIES, EXCELLING IN THEIR CAREERS. HOWEVER, I HAVE BEEN SINGLE FOR OVER EIGHT YEARS AND DO NOT SEEM TO BE ABLE TO ATTRACT A PARTNER. I DON’T WANT TO SETTLE AND DATING GAY MEN IS DIFFICULT IF YOU DON’T LOOK LIKE A GREEK ADONIS. I ABSOLUTELY LOVE MY JOB BUT I WORK FOR A CHARITY, WHICH MEANS I DON’T GET THOSE SALARIES MY FRIENDS IN FINANCIAL SERVICES GET AND IT’S HARD TO EXCEL UP THE CAREER LADDER QUICKLY BECAUSE OF LIMITED ROLES, AND I HAVE MINIMAL SAVINGS SO THE PROSPECT OF HOME OWNERSHIP IS NOTHING SHORT OF A FANTASY. WHY DO I FEEL SO STRESSED AND SAD ABOUT THIS? I KNOW WE ALL HAVE OUR OWN PATHS IN LIFE AND THE STANDARD LINE LIFE ISN’T SO PERFECT. BUT I JUST FEEL AS THOUGH I AM GETTING OLDER AND MISSING OUT ON THOSE MILESTONES THAT I SHOULD BE AND DO WANT TO BE EXPERIENCING. DOES THIS GET EASIER AND DO YOU CARE LESS AS YOU GET OLDER? Continue reading...


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